Friday, May 24, 2013
Summer Is Looking Promising!
Sunday, May 5, 2013
A Marriage and a Mess Up
Spent the week end in Hermann to attend Samantha Englert's wedding. It was a lovely ceremony and a beautiful bride. She found the perfect match in Kale Dempsey and I hope for them many years of happy wedded bliss.
Have I written about Andrea's latest? She got caught in the school with 90 prescription drugs on her. She admitted she has been unable to sleep so she mixed the contents of 17 pills with water and downed it. Then took another 90 to school. She was given the option of going to the hospital for treatment or the police office for booking. She went to the hospital and was put on 72 hour uncooperative lock down. Then on Friday, the judge listened to the doctor in charge of her care and agreed she needed to stay for at least another week.
I then found out that a few weeks back, right before she announced she was going to begin attending NA meetings, that her day-to-day 'servant' had gone thru her bedroom and removed alcohol bottles and street drugs. FROM MY HOUSE! And they didn't bother to tell us what they had found. Probably siting confidentiality. Screw that - you find street drugs and alcohol bottles hidden in my house, you had better freaking tell me.
Then, Kathey was here this week end cat-dog sitting. She was looking through the kitchen cabinets for a pan to bake cornbread and found a mostly empty bottle of booze hidden among the pans. I almost came unglued when she told me.
She is going to call these so-called care givers and tell them someone needs to come get all these prescription drugs Andrea has at the house. I am going to get the name of her primary case manager and give him/her a piece of my mind. You don't keep secrets about crap like that. I will also tell him/her that Andrea will need to be out of my house by the end of May. She broke the hard and fast rule about booze and drugs. No more chances. She is making decisions that I don't agree with and I will no longer support her with a safe haven - she needs to start feeling the consequences of her actions.
She's outta here.
Have I written about Andrea's latest? She got caught in the school with 90 prescription drugs on her. She admitted she has been unable to sleep so she mixed the contents of 17 pills with water and downed it. Then took another 90 to school. She was given the option of going to the hospital for treatment or the police office for booking. She went to the hospital and was put on 72 hour uncooperative lock down. Then on Friday, the judge listened to the doctor in charge of her care and agreed she needed to stay for at least another week.
I then found out that a few weeks back, right before she announced she was going to begin attending NA meetings, that her day-to-day 'servant' had gone thru her bedroom and removed alcohol bottles and street drugs. FROM MY HOUSE! And they didn't bother to tell us what they had found. Probably siting confidentiality. Screw that - you find street drugs and alcohol bottles hidden in my house, you had better freaking tell me.
Then, Kathey was here this week end cat-dog sitting. She was looking through the kitchen cabinets for a pan to bake cornbread and found a mostly empty bottle of booze hidden among the pans. I almost came unglued when she told me.
She is going to call these so-called care givers and tell them someone needs to come get all these prescription drugs Andrea has at the house. I am going to get the name of her primary case manager and give him/her a piece of my mind. You don't keep secrets about crap like that. I will also tell him/her that Andrea will need to be out of my house by the end of May. She broke the hard and fast rule about booze and drugs. No more chances. She is making decisions that I don't agree with and I will no longer support her with a safe haven - she needs to start feeling the consequences of her actions.
She's outta here.
Sunday, April 28, 2013
Just Another Update
The wedding is over - and I didn't go. Andrea told me Breezy asked where I was and she told her I was under the weather. I'm fine with that. You know, I REALLY hope she proves me wrong and is a wonderful, committed wife and mother who contributes to the household bills and doesn't cheat on my brother. I really hope I'm wrong about her.
We are starting to plan for Andrea's graduation party - I think she might actually complete her high school career! I've decided to go all out for her because I'm pretty sure she will never have another graduation. I just don't see her handling college, not with all the coddling she's gotten from her parents, teachers and social workers. She's so use to getting to do things her way, she has no idea how to be a team player and do things the way others expect (professors, employers, etc.) So, in three weeks I hope to have a house full of Andrea supporters congratulating her on her success.
Next week end we head to Hermann to attend Samantha Englert's wedding. Unlike George's nuptials, I'm looking forward to this wedding. Samantha could be such a role model to Andrea - she's done everything right. Still need to get the pets situated for the week end; I'll ask George to check on kitties and Tom to puppysit Bailey.
I'm still communicating with Susanna via Facebook message. Not sure where this is leading and I'm not sure where I hope it goes. I am totally stymied by the whole thing.
We are starting to plan for Andrea's graduation party - I think she might actually complete her high school career! I've decided to go all out for her because I'm pretty sure she will never have another graduation. I just don't see her handling college, not with all the coddling she's gotten from her parents, teachers and social workers. She's so use to getting to do things her way, she has no idea how to be a team player and do things the way others expect (professors, employers, etc.) So, in three weeks I hope to have a house full of Andrea supporters congratulating her on her success.
Next week end we head to Hermann to attend Samantha Englert's wedding. Unlike George's nuptials, I'm looking forward to this wedding. Samantha could be such a role model to Andrea - she's done everything right. Still need to get the pets situated for the week end; I'll ask George to check on kitties and Tom to puppysit Bailey.
I'm still communicating with Susanna via Facebook message. Not sure where this is leading and I'm not sure where I hope it goes. I am totally stymied by the whole thing.
Friday, April 12, 2013
Family Drama
Heavy sigh.
I had gotten used to not having a sister in my life - had reminded myself I have only brothers. Then a Facebook message pops up from Susanna. It said she misses me and loves me. WTF?
I sat on it for a few days and responded, saying I only want her to be happy and if that means living five miles away and never seeing one another, then that's what it means. Even told her I love her and the girls.
A few days later she responds - how are things going, how are you feeling? WTF - Part II.
I haven't responded. Truth be told, having her not in my world has made my life that much less stressful. I can't go back to trying (unsuccessfully, I know) bite my tongue around the girls when they tell me the latest stupid thing Susanna and Jackass have done or said. I can't go back to living on eggshells around them. I can't go back to what I finally got behind me. So what do I do?
And the wedding count down has begun on Facebook - I should un-friend Breezy but I'm afraid to make a move she will interpret as hostile and react the way she has in the past. Not so much for me as for George who knows he's f**ked. He needs all the support he can get, and should Breezy decide to pull a 'Susanna' and mark me as Enemy #1, George has to suffer for it.
I don't want to get sucked in to other people's miseries - I really don't.
I had gotten used to not having a sister in my life - had reminded myself I have only brothers. Then a Facebook message pops up from Susanna. It said she misses me and loves me. WTF?
I sat on it for a few days and responded, saying I only want her to be happy and if that means living five miles away and never seeing one another, then that's what it means. Even told her I love her and the girls.
A few days later she responds - how are things going, how are you feeling? WTF - Part II.
I haven't responded. Truth be told, having her not in my world has made my life that much less stressful. I can't go back to trying (unsuccessfully, I know) bite my tongue around the girls when they tell me the latest stupid thing Susanna and Jackass have done or said. I can't go back to living on eggshells around them. I can't go back to what I finally got behind me. So what do I do?
And the wedding count down has begun on Facebook - I should un-friend Breezy but I'm afraid to make a move she will interpret as hostile and react the way she has in the past. Not so much for me as for George who knows he's f**ked. He needs all the support he can get, and should Breezy decide to pull a 'Susanna' and mark me as Enemy #1, George has to suffer for it.
I don't want to get sucked in to other people's miseries - I really don't.
Thursday, April 4, 2013
April Showers
Amazingly, March is gone and April has started. It's been three years today that I lost my beautiful Cujo Kitten - I miss her every day.
Got a surprise Facebook message from Susanna Wednesday. I'm not sure it wasn't an April Fool joke - it was short but said she wanted me to know that she loves me. Sounds like a joke, doesn't it? She, who has ignored me for almost two years (except for the occasional hate email) suddenly sending a sweet note? I responded today, saying I just want her to be happy and if us not having a relationship makes her happy, then that's the way it's gotta be.
And how did she send a Facebook message when we aren't friends? Didn't know you could do that.
I told George I wasn't going to his wedding. He was disappointed but said he understood. He said 70% of the invited guests have declined. Very few people on his side think it's a good idea - in fact, no one on his side thinks it's a good idea! But he's going to do it. Gotta do what you gotta do to be happy (though he will be miserable until she leaves with Piper and takes half his house in the process - and we all know it's going to happen.) She doesn't know I won't be in attendance - I assume as soon as she finds out she will decide I'm not a good influence on Piper and try to keep her away from me. Which is fine - I'm good at playing that game!
Got a surprise Facebook message from Susanna Wednesday. I'm not sure it wasn't an April Fool joke - it was short but said she wanted me to know that she loves me. Sounds like a joke, doesn't it? She, who has ignored me for almost two years (except for the occasional hate email) suddenly sending a sweet note? I responded today, saying I just want her to be happy and if us not having a relationship makes her happy, then that's the way it's gotta be.
And how did she send a Facebook message when we aren't friends? Didn't know you could do that.
I told George I wasn't going to his wedding. He was disappointed but said he understood. He said 70% of the invited guests have declined. Very few people on his side think it's a good idea - in fact, no one on his side thinks it's a good idea! But he's going to do it. Gotta do what you gotta do to be happy (though he will be miserable until she leaves with Piper and takes half his house in the process - and we all know it's going to happen.) She doesn't know I won't be in attendance - I assume as soon as she finds out she will decide I'm not a good influence on Piper and try to keep her away from me. Which is fine - I'm good at playing that game!
Saturday, March 23, 2013
Adrea's Come-To-Jesus Meeting
After numerous requests from both me and Shawn to clean her pigsty of a room with only the courteous' of 'I know' and no follow-up action, I wrote her a letter. A straight forward letter letting her know that we are done with the disrespect she shows us in dismissing our simple request. I gave her about 24 hours to get her room operating-room clean or I would do it, with the consequence of her stuff just being tossed out. And I suggested if she wanted to live like that, she was welcome to do so in her own apartment.
Her room has never looked cleaner.
Sometimes you just have to put in writing what you want to say. She can dismiss your conversations all she wants but when it's on paper, there's not a lot of excuses other than "I can't read", and I know she can.
Her room has never looked cleaner.
Sometimes you just have to put in writing what you want to say. She can dismiss your conversations all she wants but when it's on paper, there's not a lot of excuses other than "I can't read", and I know she can.
Saturday, March 16, 2013
Another One Gone
We are burying Uncle Tom this morning. He died Tuesday, after living with MS for close to 25 years. The parents' generation is quickly dissolving - two uncles and one aunt left. Then it's my generation's turn. That scares me beyond reasoning.
I've been thinking of Mom and Dad all week - next Thursday will be the 14th anniversary of Mom's death and Dad's 5th is coming up in May. Aunt Bobbie was right those many years ago when she told me in the limo on the way to the church for Mom's funeral Mass that you miss your parents every day of your life. I truly do.
I've been thinking of Mom and Dad all week - next Thursday will be the 14th anniversary of Mom's death and Dad's 5th is coming up in May. Aunt Bobbie was right those many years ago when she told me in the limo on the way to the church for Mom's funeral Mass that you miss your parents every day of your life. I truly do.
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