Adrea's Come-To-Jesus Meeting

After numerous requests from both me and Shawn to clean her pigsty of a room with only the courteous' of 'I know' and no follow-up action, I wrote her a letter. A straight forward letter letting her know that we are done with the disrespect she shows us in dismissing our simple request. I gave her about 24 hours to get her room operating-room clean or I would do it, with the consequence of her stuff just being tossed out. And I suggested if she wanted to live like that, she was welcome to do so in her own apartment.

Her room has never looked cleaner.

Sometimes you just have to put in writing what you want to say. She can dismiss your conversations all she wants but when it's on paper, there's not a lot of excuses other than "I can't read", and I know she can.

Another One Gone

We are burying Uncle Tom this morning. He died Tuesday, after living with MS for close to 25 years. The parents' generation is quickly dissolving - two uncles and one aunt left. Then it's my generation's turn. That scares me beyond reasoning.

I've been thinking of Mom and Dad all week - next Thursday will be the 14th anniversary of Mom's death and Dad's 5th is coming up in May. Aunt Bobbie was right those many years ago when she told me in the limo on the way to the church for Mom's funeral Mass that you miss your parents every day of your life. I truly do.

Oz - The Great and Powerful

Shawn and I went to see the Wizard, the Wonderful Wizard of Oz! Well, the new Oz movie, that is. It was fabulous! I might go see it again tomorrow - only in 3D. Some of the scenes looked like they would be real fun in 3D mode. That is one DVD going in my collection! And it might make for a good Christmas gift for someone, too. Maybe the movie along with the books. Something to keep in mind!

Family Drama

So Tom sent an email to the family at large telling everyone how hard they've had it for the last 7 years. They are out of money, out of time and out of hope. Michael is locked away till the end of April, Ana is pregnant, Andrea is starting to slack again in school and the only positive thing they could say about Alex is he's going to be an Eagle Scout (which is more Kathey's accomplishment than his.) That is one messed up family.

I've been trying to find the courage to ask Shawn a question all day - I never did. I guess maybe on Wednesday. I have to ask him if he's thinking about divorce and, if so, what stage he's in - eminent, inevitable or eventually. I am almost to inevitable. I just don't know how much longer I can hang on with his drinking - it's getting worse month by month. And the one thing I can count on when he's drunk is that he will be unpredictable and that's not a good thing to count on. I'm pretty sure he will tell me that, yes, he is thinking about it.

George is going to go thru with the marriage 'for Piper's sake' though I told him Piper needs a stressfree environment and if that means separate houses for Mom and Dad, then that's what it means. But he is so obsessed with that child that he is going to do whatever he needs to to keep her in his day-to-day life. He keeps saying he wants to do what's best for Piper but the truth is, he wants to do what's best for him, and having Piper with him every day is best for him, regardless of the condition of the home life. To be honest, he's going to have a real hard time sending her to school when the time comes. He is pulling a 'John.'

Mo and Curly's birthday is next week - they will be four. Can't believe it's only been three four. I can't say anything to Shawn about it because he will respond, 'well, they are old enough to fend for themselves' and he'll dump them in a field some place. So, I will have a quiet celebration when he's not looking. Sad that I have to do that.