Tom and his family have moved to Lenexa. They came by for Andrea's stuff so she is also officially and completely out. It's just me and Shawn (and the boys) again. I hate this feeling of being left behind - even when I needed them to go. Here I sit alone again, doing the exact same thing I've been doing for 10 years.
Guess the good news is we are expecting Dan and the girls in two weeks. Dan said his Pack Out date is Tuesday so they may actually show up earlier than that - I don't know where else they are going to go. But they will also leave (while I'm in Scotland so it won't be so hard on me.) And I know George will take Piper and move in the next five years, once he gets to a good place with the house and can sell it for a small profit.
I am not going anywhere.
Sunday, July 7, 2013
Monday, July 1, 2013
Free At Last
Free at last, free at last! Thank God Almight I am free at last!
Andrea moved out today. She headed to Ames, IA with Aunt Shari - the only family member that would take her. I wished Shari luck - she only has her for five weeks (though Andrea is already making plans to get back to Lansing and move in with a friend with a spare room.)
Andrea was beyond pissed - she was hating me because she suspected that if it was up to Shawn, he would have let her stay till mid-August. She was hating me because I sent her, Tom and Kathey a text yesterday reminding her she had a ton of packing still to do and it needed to be done by evening's end because I couldn't have the chaos of it all while trying to work. So Tom and Kathey sent her home from Boy Scout Camp Family Appreciation Day early to pack, causing her to miss out on whatever she thinks she missed out on. She was hating me because it was my fault she was being forced to leave her job, friends and drug dealer. She didn't even say good-bye this morning; just left. Shawn called her this evening and told her that was in bad form.
I let Tom know today that she has left her stuff in the bedroom rather than the garage like I had asked. Tom was thinking she would have a few boxes - I told him she has several boxes, bags and plastic dressers. He was not happy to hear that and said he and Michael will be over Thursday morning to get the crap out of my house so I can deep clean the room.
Sadly, our adventures with Andrea has made both of us resistance to the idea of another niece/nephew staying with us. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
Andrea moved out today. She headed to Ames, IA with Aunt Shari - the only family member that would take her. I wished Shari luck - she only has her for five weeks (though Andrea is already making plans to get back to Lansing and move in with a friend with a spare room.)
Andrea was beyond pissed - she was hating me because she suspected that if it was up to Shawn, he would have let her stay till mid-August. She was hating me because I sent her, Tom and Kathey a text yesterday reminding her she had a ton of packing still to do and it needed to be done by evening's end because I couldn't have the chaos of it all while trying to work. So Tom and Kathey sent her home from Boy Scout Camp Family Appreciation Day early to pack, causing her to miss out on whatever she thinks she missed out on. She was hating me because it was my fault she was being forced to leave her job, friends and drug dealer. She didn't even say good-bye this morning; just left. Shawn called her this evening and told her that was in bad form.
I let Tom know today that she has left her stuff in the bedroom rather than the garage like I had asked. Tom was thinking she would have a few boxes - I told him she has several boxes, bags and plastic dressers. He was not happy to hear that and said he and Michael will be over Thursday morning to get the crap out of my house so I can deep clean the room.
Sadly, our adventures with Andrea has made both of us resistance to the idea of another niece/nephew staying with us. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
Sunday, June 23, 2013
Weaving Webs of Deceit
So, Andrea has a deadline of next Sunday to find new digs. She came home wtih two weeks worth of food this evening. Really? I was upstairs switching out the seasonal wardrobe when Shawn came up and told me she had approached him about staying till August, when student housing opened up. Told him she would approach him! She told Shawn that her Dad suggested she ask - I doubt Tom would have done that, not after the discussion we had a month ago. She's not staying - it's time for her to start dealing with the consequences of her actions. I am not going to let her guilt us into giving her exactly what she wants. She's going to be disappointed this time 'round. I suspect she will cuddle up to me tomorrow. Maybe I'll just go work in the office to avoid her!
Found a VERY interesting inquiry on my Facebook page - someone who may or may not be an old boyfriend. All the message said was 'did you use to live in Leavenworth Kansas'. I checked out his Facebook page which has a nice family photo but I couldn't tell you it was him. In fact, if it IS him, if he had come to my front door, I wouldn't have ever guessed who it was. I haven't responded. To be honest, the guy I remember was in such a bad place, I would be very surprised if he remembered my full name.
Found a VERY interesting inquiry on my Facebook page - someone who may or may not be an old boyfriend. All the message said was 'did you use to live in Leavenworth Kansas'. I checked out his Facebook page which has a nice family photo but I couldn't tell you it was him. In fact, if it IS him, if he had come to my front door, I wouldn't have ever guessed who it was. I haven't responded. To be honest, the guy I remember was in such a bad place, I would be very surprised if he remembered my full name.
Tuesday, June 18, 2013
Post DC
Back from DC - had a wonderful time. Although we got rained out a few days, we managed to get to the American History Museum where we saw Dorothy's ruby slippers and Archie Bunker's chair; the National Zoo where we saw the giant pandas; and Gettysburg where we saw history. We tried to find the old house we lived in as very young kids, but the area is so built up that nothing looked familiar to me. I'm going to find the address and have Dan try to locate it again. I am disappointed I didn't get to see it.
Andrea is down to two weeks with us. I put packing boxes in her room yesterday. She packed one then went to her parents' and subsequently the hospital - yet again. She always puts herself in the hospital when she doesn't want to deal with something - it's become so predictable. She spent half of last week in the hospital, too. Complaining of pain in her stomach while posting 'someone bring me Chinese food' on Facebook. Really? She has no place to go from here and no money to get there. She asked George if she could move in with them for a month but I warned him against that. With her heavy drug use (she's on meth), if the cops have reason to search the house, Piper will instantly go to foster care and George will have a struggle to get her out. He has to put her first. So, Andrea has very few options right now. Maybe one of her Reilly aunts will take her in for the month, until the student housing opens. Tom said he would put down the deposit (but not pay the monthly rent.) She got ticked that he was willing to do that but not put down a deposit on an apartment, which is what she really wants. She is so in for a rough awakening when she finds she has to support herself.
But she ain't staying here - she is out July 1. If I have to pack her crap and put it on the curb, then I will.
Andrea is down to two weeks with us. I put packing boxes in her room yesterday. She packed one then went to her parents' and subsequently the hospital - yet again. She always puts herself in the hospital when she doesn't want to deal with something - it's become so predictable. She spent half of last week in the hospital, too. Complaining of pain in her stomach while posting 'someone bring me Chinese food' on Facebook. Really? She has no place to go from here and no money to get there. She asked George if she could move in with them for a month but I warned him against that. With her heavy drug use (she's on meth), if the cops have reason to search the house, Piper will instantly go to foster care and George will have a struggle to get her out. He has to put her first. So, Andrea has very few options right now. Maybe one of her Reilly aunts will take her in for the month, until the student housing opens. Tom said he would put down the deposit (but not pay the monthly rent.) She got ticked that he was willing to do that but not put down a deposit on an apartment, which is what she really wants. She is so in for a rough awakening when she finds she has to support herself.
But she ain't staying here - she is out July 1. If I have to pack her crap and put it on the curb, then I will.
Friday, June 7, 2013
Leaving On A Jet Plane
Just checked in for my morning flight to Washington DC. Excited about going but a bit nervous about flying alone - I've only ever done that once before. I will be fine, I know, but still it will be a different experience.
I have to get up at 4:00 to get to The Spot around 5:00 and to the terminal by 5:15. The flight leaves at 7:30. I know that's a lot of down time, especially for Kansas City, but with my bionic knee, I never know how long it's going to take to get the pat down. Better safe and have time to kill than sorry and have to rebook!
Wonder what we will do next week. I confirmed Falls Church is on the rail so realistically I could take the girls to the city every day. Maybe I will, though Dan says they are having too much fun at the pool in the community. But maybe a few days at least. I want to see the Zoo this time around and if I can get back to the WWII Monument - I really liked that one. And the American History museum with Dorothy's ruby slippers, Fonz's leather jacket and Archie's armchair.
Prayers for a safe trip.
I have to get up at 4:00 to get to The Spot around 5:00 and to the terminal by 5:15. The flight leaves at 7:30. I know that's a lot of down time, especially for Kansas City, but with my bionic knee, I never know how long it's going to take to get the pat down. Better safe and have time to kill than sorry and have to rebook!
Wonder what we will do next week. I confirmed Falls Church is on the rail so realistically I could take the girls to the city every day. Maybe I will, though Dan says they are having too much fun at the pool in the community. But maybe a few days at least. I want to see the Zoo this time around and if I can get back to the WWII Monument - I really liked that one. And the American History museum with Dorothy's ruby slippers, Fonz's leather jacket and Archie's armchair.
Prayers for a safe trip.
Friday, May 24, 2013
Summer Is Looking Promising!
Sunday, May 5, 2013
A Marriage and a Mess Up
Spent the week end in Hermann to attend Samantha Englert's wedding. It was a lovely ceremony and a beautiful bride. She found the perfect match in Kale Dempsey and I hope for them many years of happy wedded bliss.
Have I written about Andrea's latest? She got caught in the school with 90 prescription drugs on her. She admitted she has been unable to sleep so she mixed the contents of 17 pills with water and downed it. Then took another 90 to school. She was given the option of going to the hospital for treatment or the police office for booking. She went to the hospital and was put on 72 hour uncooperative lock down. Then on Friday, the judge listened to the doctor in charge of her care and agreed she needed to stay for at least another week.
I then found out that a few weeks back, right before she announced she was going to begin attending NA meetings, that her day-to-day 'servant' had gone thru her bedroom and removed alcohol bottles and street drugs. FROM MY HOUSE! And they didn't bother to tell us what they had found. Probably siting confidentiality. Screw that - you find street drugs and alcohol bottles hidden in my house, you had better freaking tell me.
Then, Kathey was here this week end cat-dog sitting. She was looking through the kitchen cabinets for a pan to bake cornbread and found a mostly empty bottle of booze hidden among the pans. I almost came unglued when she told me.
She is going to call these so-called care givers and tell them someone needs to come get all these prescription drugs Andrea has at the house. I am going to get the name of her primary case manager and give him/her a piece of my mind. You don't keep secrets about crap like that. I will also tell him/her that Andrea will need to be out of my house by the end of May. She broke the hard and fast rule about booze and drugs. No more chances. She is making decisions that I don't agree with and I will no longer support her with a safe haven - she needs to start feeling the consequences of her actions.
She's outta here.
Have I written about Andrea's latest? She got caught in the school with 90 prescription drugs on her. She admitted she has been unable to sleep so she mixed the contents of 17 pills with water and downed it. Then took another 90 to school. She was given the option of going to the hospital for treatment or the police office for booking. She went to the hospital and was put on 72 hour uncooperative lock down. Then on Friday, the judge listened to the doctor in charge of her care and agreed she needed to stay for at least another week.
I then found out that a few weeks back, right before she announced she was going to begin attending NA meetings, that her day-to-day 'servant' had gone thru her bedroom and removed alcohol bottles and street drugs. FROM MY HOUSE! And they didn't bother to tell us what they had found. Probably siting confidentiality. Screw that - you find street drugs and alcohol bottles hidden in my house, you had better freaking tell me.
Then, Kathey was here this week end cat-dog sitting. She was looking through the kitchen cabinets for a pan to bake cornbread and found a mostly empty bottle of booze hidden among the pans. I almost came unglued when she told me.
She is going to call these so-called care givers and tell them someone needs to come get all these prescription drugs Andrea has at the house. I am going to get the name of her primary case manager and give him/her a piece of my mind. You don't keep secrets about crap like that. I will also tell him/her that Andrea will need to be out of my house by the end of May. She broke the hard and fast rule about booze and drugs. No more chances. She is making decisions that I don't agree with and I will no longer support her with a safe haven - she needs to start feeling the consequences of her actions.
She's outta here.
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